c'est la vie

get to know wat u nid to do, plan ahead of time according to your capabilities... then execute it with a positive attitute, that is with a happy mind and with a mindset that its my own responsibility, when you grow up, its time for you to shoulder more and more responsibilities, don take it as a burden, take it as a chance to train urself to become a better person.

yeah... talking in such a positive tone seems not so realistic... life's full of unwanted circumstances, hence, bringing anxiety into our lives. this transforms into lots of fear, that what if i fail, what if something unfortunate happens on me, how will my life turn into? fears, fears, fears... they are the sources of stress, deterring our march forward, worst still, some go nuts driven by fear.

so, wat can we do with it? nthg! we can only take control of the process, but not the outcome... wen you have already done your part, the remaining part lies on fate! 

fear doesnt help in anything... so wen u are executing ur plans, and fear gets into u, and so is stress... stop it... tell yourself fear doesnt help in anything, its more constructive if you were to review your plans, see what went wrong that allowed fear to creep into u, if there's a problem in the plan, make modifications, if not, everything is already there, thats wat u managed to do, then, the FEAR is just some crap, ignore it! smile towards it!

of course, some would say, all we are working for, its the OUTCOME, and now u are telling me not to bother about it??? i m not saying not to bother about it, but its out of our control... outcome is a chemistry of ur effort, the timing, the luck and fate you see...

not to say outcome is not important, its important! but processes take up a big chunk of our lives, learn to enjoy the process by living with a positive attitude, AND also learn to live with the outcomes that we get... if its a good outcome, then yippppeeeee! very happy; if it isn't that good, learn to accept it, and try to come up with some plans to turn things round. 

conclusion: 1) do not fear, knowing the fact that you will accept the reality but with the belief that you will try your best to turn things round when the goings aren't right.

                 2) enjoy the process, do not complain too frequently! haha. work in a positive way according to your capabilities, see more things, meet more people, have more focuses in our lives!

向世界出发之凤凰山篇

这张照片，拍得真有内涵，就很有那“向世界出发"的感觉!

看见飞机起起落落，真的恨不得自己也能够乘着飞机飞回家乡！

hmmmm... after some very tiring and quite depressing periods, finally I get the chance to refresh myself. It was already midnight when we meet up in Tung Chung, very very tired. We were very worried that we will faint half way up the mountain! HAHAHAHA!

This was a gathering of my university buddy, Tina with her friends, and she had asked us to join them! I appreciate this very much, and is very happy to get along with them, especially Zoe, Cyrus, Leung Kau, M.K., Jack, Jason and more! They were very re qing, and had make us feel very welcomed among them! Hahahaha...

We started hiking at around 2? couldn't really remember... LOL! Even before we started, I can already feel the strong wind... I think we have underestimated the cold temperature we would get at the peak... guess what, we did not bring enough clothes to protect us from the cold wind!

And as we are hiking up, very very tiring, steps, steps and more steps... for around 3 hours time! We reached the peak at around 445am, the wind is so strong and cold up there, and we were told that it is not until 2 hours later at 645am, only the sun will rise! 2 hours, its 2 hours! Me and Nixon was wondering how are we going to live through this very "cooling" condition with just 2 sweaters, very normal sweaters when others are with thick Columbia or North Face winter coats! Luckily Zoe had brought a sleeping bag, and so for the 2 hours, me and Nixon shared the sleeping bag as a protection from the strong cold wind, just like the refugees in the refugee camps...

And after the long wait, the sky started to brighten up, the small place up on the peak was cramped with so many people that we find it difficult to move around. So many of us came up here anticipating for the majestic sunrise. And here it comes, so breathtakingly beautiful! I have always thought that sunrise should be not much different from sunset. I was wrong! The color of the whole scene is so different! Check it out from the pictures above and you will know why I have said this.

And after some photograph session, we started our way down. Along the way, the scenery is just simply magnificent. I think its a very "向世界出发" feel... This gave me a feel of "there's really still lots of things other than our future career, money, status and power". I don't really know how to describe the feeling. I do not actually know what I am thinking then. I just have a very strong feeling of how timid we are, I feel very much of going home, to get back to my loved ones, my friends, especially when the airport is just beside us... hehe...

well... feelings are just feelings... Now I am back to reality, back to school for another 3 weeks ++ before I am on my way back to sg and pg! That's life... C'est la vie...

Fish Leong and Tony Chao 梁靜茹 & 趙元同 婚禮 (2月1日)

陳奕迅 「上五樓的快活」多少 官方完整MV

多少

作詞/作曲：蔡健雅
編曲：李守信/金木義則/梁介洋/黃冠豪/石博元
製作：林暐哲

我用盡所有方式 找個人給我安慰
渡過寂寞的黑夜
我問守護的天使 也許她能夠體會
這無助讓我好累
走到無路可退 我還能相信誰

用多少天 用多少年的跌跌撞撞才找到終點
用多少傷痛的心愛才不離開身邊
用多少謊言去掩飾彼此的不完美
要用多少個世紀讓我看透一切

我走在這個城市 熟悉又陌生的臉
有誰能給我安慰
我問守護的天使 也許她能夠體會
這無助讓我好累
走到無路可退 我還能相信誰

轉載來自 ※Mojim.com　魔鏡歌詞網 
用多少天 用多少年的跌跌撞撞才找到終點
用多少傷痛的心愛才不離開身邊
用多少謊言去掩飾彼此的不完美
要用多少個世紀讓我看透一切

我沒有任何防備 沒方向到處地追
沒翅膀卻好想飛
我努力順風跟隨
黑或白找不到個絕對 全都是灰

用多少天 用多少年的跌跌撞撞才找到終點
用多少傷痛的心愛才不離開身邊
用多少謊言去掩飾彼此的不完美
要用多少個世紀讓我看透一切

要用多少個世紀讓我看透一切

一人一个半

陶子重義氣，她要我做什麼，我就做什麼。她要我談一談婚姻感情，就談吧！反正我也到了開口說話會帶點道理，但年輕人聽不進去的年齡。

我跟太太戀愛八年結婚，婚後十七年，總共認識了二十五年。這麼長的時間日夜相伴，身旁偶爾沒有她，感覺很爽，倘若此後一輩子沒有她，萬萬不可。

像前一陣子看到一則意見調查，問年輕女孩，家人、父母、孩子、老公與事業，如果硬要抉擇，會先放棄哪個？

女孩選了選，先放棄了事業，然後家人、父母，剩下老公與孩子難以抉擇，最後選擇放棄孩子、留下老公，理由是家人、父母、孩子最終都會離開身邊，但老公會是終身伴侶。很殘酷、但也很真實。

中國字的寓意深遠，「伴」，就是一人一半，湊在一起才完整。

現今許多人適婚卻不婚，老人家看了奇怪，過去從沒發生過類似狀況。這現象代表五、六十年來沒有戰亂、年輕人長大過程中享有家庭溫暖與親情支援，因此認為單 身也能過得很好，不論敗犬或是單身貴族，不覺得非要個伴，是歷史上首度可以一個人過日子的平安歲月。衰老未至，沒有歲月的壓力，等年齡到了，開始覺得孤 獨、害怕孤獨，想找個人分享，還是需要個伴。

若要進入婚姻，套一句不負責任的老生常談，要靠緣份，除了緣份以及感性的感覺，還要理性的選擇。婚姻確實需要理性，如果女兒論及婚嫁，我一定要求要看看對方家庭，什麼樣的家庭會養出什麼樣的孩子，當然，也有破碎家庭的孩子更努力維繫自己的幸福家庭，但一定要仔細觀察。

而另一個老生常談就是婚姻需要兩個人有相同的價值觀，但這不是說「我喜歡的你一定要喜歡」，而是「我不討厭你喜歡的」，就可以了，兩人可妥協，可退讓，願意試著接觸自己本來討厭的，看看是否真那麼不能接受，有這樣願意妥協的心情，比較容易維繫感情。

而婚姻與愛情最大的不同，在於願不願意改變。願意為了對方改變自己，是真愛，從頭到尾都不想改變自己，這段感情充其量只是對方愛你。

戀愛是短暫的交會後很想在一起而開始，很想閃的結束。開始時乾柴烈火，講究原汁原味，眼前的他什麼都好，是全天下最酷的、最美的，不需要改，但等到愛情疲了，才發現這人酷到不近人情、美得過於臭美、連刺青的位置不對，趕緊推給個性不合閃人。因此戀愛講究的是如何好聚好散

進入婚姻，當然還是會有許多衝突，學習重點是「相處的藝術」。男生該學的第一課就是上廁所必須掀馬桶蓋，一開始改變很不習慣，後來融入身體，像吃飯喝水一樣自然。

但最近老婆說不只要掀蓋子，尿完還希望我拿衛生紙擦擦馬桶周圍留下來的「遺跡」，按照過去的脾氣，一定就「老子愛….」，但現在的我會聽太太的意見，因為「愛」字裡有個心，不是光用腦想著該送什麼禮物給她，要用心。

太太也改變不少，她不喜歡戶外活動，婚前知道我愛潛水、跟著背起十幾公斤重的空氣瓶跳進海底求生，這麼愛美的她怕晒黑、塗防晒油塗滿臉，一回頭、嚇一跳，怎麼來了個歌仔戲花旦跟我一起玩。

婚後我又想潛水，她就說「不必了」，理由是家裡有孩子，不宜從事太危險的活動。

以前一個人在台北發展，要自己照顧自己，還要爭名奪利，不自私很難在短時間之內成就自己。結婚之後學著喊太太的媽媽「媽！」，有食物，不能先放進自己嘴 巴，要顧著妻小先吃。我開始懂得心疼與珍惜，因為太太很好，捨不得讓她不舒服、捨不得讓她傷心，這些捨不得讓我自然學會了讓、學會了愛，也自然的改變自 己，從自私變成大方。

婚姻的路是每天類似的風景，同樣的過程、淡淡的，要相處得好，真得靠慧根，所以找對象不能光想找個腿長奶大的辣妹，或是像金城武的帥哥，要找個讓自己想起他來心裡甜甜的，回頭一看，那人就在燈火闌珊處，這就是最好的對象。

而所謂另一半，也不是一開始就契合，是在修正中不斷的磨合，你多一點我少一點，像拼圖一樣拼在一起，才能一起過一輩子。

當然，歲月無情，人生最終還是分離。像我媽媽十六歲嫁給爸爸，相守相愛了一輩子，爸爸十多年前過世之後，媽媽真像少了一半，常凝望遠方，像爸爸就在天的那 一邊，令人感傷。但人生如果少了婚姻、少了隨之而來的酸甜苦辣生老病死，少了孩子延續家的價值與感情，真會少掉很多滋味。 

海洋公园之香港返老还童篇！

好喜欢这张！玉树临风！有刘松仁的影子！哈哈哈哈哈！

欠打！

鱼跃龙门！我要！

超优雅的可爱海豚秀！

玩了一整天，晚上，我们都累垮了，真的很累！我们已经不是小孩子了，真的已经没有那用之不竭的精力了，哈哈哈。。。海洋公园的机动游戏，虽然没有像澳洲，韩国那边的游乐场一样刺激多元化，一开始的时候，还真的玩得有点纳闷，是不是浪费钱了！但是，想一想，如果你一开始就觉得它不好玩，那情愿你现在就回家好了，不然就尽情地去享受，一切就真的看你自己的心情，而且大多数好玩的时刻不是因为那个地方，而是因为跟你玩在一起的那些人。。。幸好，及时醒悟，才没有浪费了那天的outing！